I was being told that to forgive others is important for my healing. Instead, I found out that (in my case) to forgive myself was the underlying real thing I had to learn. You do not always have to come to the point to forgive everything in order to find peace, but to forgive yourself and give yourself another chance. ~ Persephone Gasoline
Forgiveness isn’t only for them, it is for you also. When you forgive someone it lifts a lot of weight off of you. I chose to forgive my ex. We had three separations during our 25 year marriage. But the last time, the 4th time, I forgave and moved on. Bitterness only drags me down. So I chose not to be. Wish him and his new wife the best. ~ Connie Heitz
I forgave my ex and gave another chance, believed in him and gave him the ‘support’ he needed and then BLAM, he let me down so I moved on without another word. Forgiveness is something that has to be earned. ~ Colleen Robinson
Whether you decide or not to keep contact with the person you forgive, you should forgive them not because they deserve it, but because you deserve peace of mind. Forgiveness is a pure selfish act, it’s not easy, but really worth trying. Anger only hurts you because most of the time the person you’re not willing to forgive is not even aware anymore of the pain, and grudge you hold against them. ~ Ana Hernández
Forgiveness is freedom for the soul. Hanging on to resentment and revenge keeps the soul a prisoner to a miserable existence. Choose forgiveness!
All this forgiveness “stuff” needs one major component in the recipe.
Until you forgive yourself first say losing your job because you tried to protect the jobs of others, they however worried about themselves first, stab you in the back, because you knew the company was going up for-sale. You gave your all for your employee but they still knifed you because they thought you were getting a sweet deal from management. One or more of the employees sees an opportunity while the storm clouds are darkening to remove valuable documents so he and the employees to protect themselves can start a new business and as well do the company a favor because by getting rid of you the owners saved themselves at closing a big pay-out, your severance and your pension taken and gone. So you lose everything and now you are left alone and bad things now happen from all directions.Everyone pisses on you! Then one day you awake broken hearten,busted, beaten and broke because you are now lying in the gutters of life and a Jewish man reaches out his hand and you then decide to fore-give yourself first and now because you know you did the good act to save others their jobs first not for-self because it was the right thing to do but little did you know you were the pawn of the company and you got knifed by your employees and stabbed by management. So forgive yourself first no one knows the real picture until the curtain goes up on stage and you really see all the characters standing there with their knives with your blood on their hands. And how they justify because no one wants the truth to ruin their great story they got you black-balled to ever work in your industry of academic accreditation ever again.So in this recipe fore-give yourself first the rest of the recipe will play out on the stage as they play their real characters and then close your curtain and leave by the front exit closing and locking the door putting a sign in the window……the show and their players are in bankruptcy until further notice.